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--- In [hidden email], "davrecon" <davrecon@n...> wrote:
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> ....Just like Mary did for Straker, until his continual absence
grew so
> intrusive into their lives that it was breaking up the marriage and
opening
> the door to suspicion and mistrust. From there, it was easy for
doubt, and
> then paranoia to develop, especially when being egged on by other
friends
> and relatives of her's.

I really agree with you on this.

It's interesting because before coming here I read a gossip clip
about Gwyneth Paltrow:

>"Last year, it was claimed Chris had upset Gwyneth for "deserting"
>her for work.

>The singer had been spending up to 18 hours a day in the recording
>studio."

She's been married less than a year to her husband and has a nine
month old daughter and it seems the long hours he's putting in is
straining their marriage. I immediately thought of this episode.

My first instinct when watching this episode is to dislike Mary
for "not sticking by her man" but the more I think about it the more
I realise that maybe she made the right decision, for her at least
anyway.

Someone said she'd only known Straker for two months before marrying
him. That's not a lot of time to build a firm foundation for a
relationship. He probably wasn't working 18 hour days when he was
courting her so there's no reason for her to have thought that he
would be spending that much time away from her once she was married.
Thinking you can put up with someone being away and actually living
through the reality are two different things.

I remember back a few years ago when my husband had to put in long
hours at work. He came in late every night for about a month. I knew
exactly where he was and what he was doing. I even phoned him at work
sometimes just to chat and encourage him. This is after 24 years of
marriage and I have to admit that I was still a bit paranoid
about where he was and what he was doing. Then he comes home to tired
to do anything (if you catch my drift) and you know it's the strain
of work but then you start doubting yourself.

I've gone from disliking Mary to thinking that she was intelligent
enough early on to realise the situation she'd gotten herself into
and that she had enough self-esteem to figure she was worth more than
what was being offered.

I'm also honest enought to admit that you're right, I am influenced
by the hair and "pretty blue eyes" :)

Karen


> Dave H.